Allan S. Vann
I dealt first with my wife's Alzheimer's as a 24/7 caregiver at home, and now as a part-time caregiver and full-time advocate since her placement in the dementia wing of an assisted living facility in September. One of the many things I have learned through these years is that each new AD decline in behavior and/or skills always leads to a "new normal" period for us.
For quite some time, I was the only male in my Alzheimer's disease spousal support group. I quickly discovered that I could not resolve some problems for my wife, Clare, in the same way as some women were resolving similar issues for their husbands.
My wife, Clare, has Alzheimer's disease and recently entered the "Reflections" unit for residents with dementia in an assisted living facility. Clare's transition from home to ALF was about as good as I could have hoped for. However, there are four steps that our ALF could have taken to make this transition much easier for both of us.